Premature Ejaculation

Anxiety has been blamed on the problem of premature ejaculation. A man worrying about performing in a studly manner, a woman that is to demanding in bed, stress at work or at home will affect a man’s performance in bed. Very rarely is premature ejaculation a health issue, more of a mind-over-matter problem.  Premature ejaculation is not a form of impotence. Impotence can be controlled with drugs and other treatment IF there isn’t a major underlying health issue causing the problem such as uncontrolled diabetes, or a hormone disorder.

When entering into junior high, sex is an experiment performed in the back seat of a car while parked in Lover’s Lane, or awkward groping by inexperienced hands in darkened theaters, or football stadiums where always a sense of urgency remains. This feeling of quickened sex can continue on after the boy becomes a man.

There are no known drugs or cure that will stop premature ejaculation. Depending on how frequent the problem arises (no pun intended) antidepressants can be prescribed to help alleviate the worry and the fear of not performing.

There are actions the woman can take with her man that suffers from premature ejaculation.  Sex toys can even be employed to bring the woman to the point of orgasm and then the man can quickly slip in and finish the job.

Premature ejaculation treatments

While there is no known cure for premature ejaculation, below are a few treatment techniques that can help prolong intimacy.

Squeeze Technique
The woman takes her hand, and gently strokes her partner to the point of ejaculation. Then she takes his penis behind the glans, her thumb at the bottom of his penis, her first and second fingers at the top, exerting gentle pressure by squeezing to keep the erection in check. Then, still holding on, she straddles her partner, releasing her hold of his penis and the man ejaculates inside her. This takes discipline and practice and rarely can be mastered on the first try. An unpleasant sensation awaits any man who ejaculates while his penis is being firmly pressed together.

Condoms
Condoms placed two at a time over the head of the penis will help to deaden the sensation of intercourse, thus prolonging the time of intimacy.

Multiple Acts
Performing sex several times in one night allows the man to hold on to his latter erections longer and keeps the woman in anticipation. Some men will masturbate in private prior to sex, while others will ask their partners to perform a hand job.

The Stop and Start Technique
The partner strokes her man to the point to ejaculation. However prior to actually ejaculating, the man stops his partner’s activity and lies still attempting to relax. When his penis goes flaccid, the routine is repeated.  You can compare this to bladder exercises that women are assigned by ter doctor as they get older and the bladder loses its firmness. You can straddle your man, and using this same inner squeeze technique by constricting and relaxing your muscles you can bring your man to the point of ejaculation.  This also takes time and practice to master.

Sex Therapy
Human sexuality if freely explored with the help of a licensed sex therapist can free-up inhibitions. Certified sex therapists are mental health professionals highly trained in the field of sexual orientation. Using cognitive behavior techniques, talk therapy and exercises in sexual expression and sexual priorities, a qualified sex therapist can help the man understand his sexual disorder and over time prevent premature ejaculation from occurring.  The sessions can be expensive. Only in rare cases are the sessions covered by medical insurance. Be sure that your sex therapist is licensed. Their training is specific and extensive designed to relax and put a man quickly at ease both with himself and his sexuality.